{"id":6181,"date":"2020-02-10T11:54:48","date_gmt":"2020-02-10T11:54:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.erdmost.hu\/2020\/02\/10\/jatszmak-nelkul-az-elet-mondd-mit-er\/"},"modified":"2020-02-10T11:54:48","modified_gmt":"2020-02-10T11:54:48","slug":"jatszmak-nelkul-az-elet-mondd-mit-er","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/2020\/02\/10\/jatszmak-nelkul-az-elet-mondd-mit-er\/","title":{"rendered":"J\u00e1tszm\u00e1k n\u00e9lk\u00fcl az \u00e9let, mondd, mit \u00e9r?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Megkezd\u0151d\u00f6tt a h\u00e1zass\u00e1g hete, \u00e9s vele egy\u00fctt egy tucatnyi program a h\u00e1zasp\u00e1roknak. K\u00f6zt\u00fck egy el\u0151ad\u00e1s is lesz &#8222;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/events\/539818789951754\/\">Csal\u00e1di konfliktusok, j\u00e1tszm\u00e1k megold\u00e1sa \u00e9rz\u00e9seink felt\u00e1r\u00e1s\u00e1val<\/a>&#8221; c\u00edmen a Parkv\u00e1rosi K\u00f6z\u00f6ss\u00e9gi H\u00e1zban szombaton 18-20 \u00f3ra k\u00f6z\u00f6tt. Az el\u0151ad\u00f3val, Varga Szilvia csal\u00e1di medi\u00e1tor, coach, er\u0151szakmentes kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3s szak\u00e9rt\u0151vel besz\u00e9lgett\u00fcnk az \u00c9rd FM 101.3 K\u00f6zt\u00fcnk marad c\u00edm\u0171 m\u0171sor\u00e1ban a csal\u00e1di vit\u00e1kr\u00f3l.<\/p>\n<p>A szak\u00e9rt\u0151vel besz\u00e9lgett\u00fcnk arr\u00f3l, hogy sokszor val\u00f3ban a t\u00e9ma&nbsp;vagy a st\u00edlus,&nbsp;az er\u0151szakos kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3 miatt m\u00e9rgesedik-e el egy-egy vita.<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Valamikor m\u00e1r azon is \u00f6sszekapunk, hogy ki viszi le a szemetet, vagy \u00e9ppen hogyan nyomjuk a fogkr\u00e9met, de val\u00f3sz\u00edn\u0171leg ezek m\u00f6g\u00f6tt a csip-csup probl\u00e9m\u00e1k m\u00f6g\u00f6tt van egy komolyabb probl\u00e9ma vagy \u00e9rzelmi elt\u00e1volod\u00e1s a h\u00e1tt\u00e9rben. Nagyon sokszor t\u00e9nyleg nem merj\u00fck, nem tudjuk beazonos\u00edtani \u00e9s kimutatni az \u00e9rz\u00e9seinket, \u00e9s \u0151szint\u00e9n besz\u00e9lni azokr\u00f3l a m\u00e1siknak, \u00e9s ha ezt elfojtjuk magunkban, \u00e9s sz\u00e9pen csak halmoz\u00f3dik, m\u00e1r egy szikr\u00e1ra is robbanhatunk.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9s hogy van-e k\u00f6ze mindennek a m\u00e1r k\u00f6zhelynek sz\u00e1m\u00edt\u00f3 felgyorsult vil\u00e1gunkhoz, esetleg a k\u00fcty\u00fckh\u00f6z? A coach szerint nagyon is:<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Egyr\u00e9szt a felp\u00f6rgetett \u00e9let\u00fcnk is h\u00e1tr\u00e1nyosan befoly\u00e1solja azt, hogy nincs t\u00fcrelm\u00fcnk ak\u00e1r a p\u00e1runkkal, ak\u00e1r a gyermek\u00fcnkkel szemben. De az online kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3t is megeml\u00edthetj\u00fck itt. Hiszen ilyenkor sz\u00e1mtalanszor haszn\u00e1lunk jeleket, emotikonokat, \u00e9ppen ez\u00e9rt \u00e9l\u0151 sz\u00f3ban sokkal nehezebben form\u00e1ljuk a gondolatainkat, nem tal\u00e1ljuk a szavakat. Az \u00e9rz\u00e9seinkr\u0151l, amiket am\u00fagy is borzaszt\u00f3an bonyolult&nbsp;meg\u00e1llap\u00edtanunk, m\u00e9g nehezebb kommunik\u00e1lnunk, ha szavaink sincsenek m\u00e1r r\u00e1.<\/p>\n<p>Mi az er\u0151szakmentes kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3 els\u0151 \u00e9s legfontosabb felt\u00e9tele szerinte?<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; Azt szoktam tan\u00e1csolni, hogy a legels\u0151 l\u00e9p\u00e9s az legyen, hogy vegy\u00fck ki a kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3b\u00f3l az el\u0151\u00edt\u00e9leteinket \u00e9s felt\u00e9telez\u00e9seinket. Ne mindig magunkb\u00f3l induljunk ki. Vegy\u00fck ki azokat a gondolatokat a fej\u00fcnkb\u0151l, hogy mi mit tenn\u00e9nk m\u00e1s hely\u00e9ben, mi lenne szerint\u00fcnk a norm\u00e1lis vagy az \u00e1tlag. Ha m\u00e1r a nulladik l\u00e9p\u00e9sben elbukunk \u00e9s \u00edt\u00e9lkez\u00fcnk, akkor nagyon neh\u00e9z a m\u00e1sikat vagy a helyzetet objekt\u00edvan, konkr\u00e9tan, t\u00e9nyszer\u0171en l\u00e1tni.<\/p>\n<p>Varga Szilvia a m\u0171sorban besz\u00e9lt m\u00e9g a j\u00e1tszm\u00e1kr\u00f3l, illetve arr\u00f3l, hogy a h\u00e1rom nagy leveg\u0151v\u00e9tel helyett hogyan lehet a d\u00fch\u00f6t kezelni. Az interj\u00fat itt tudja teljes hossz\u00e1ban meghallgatni:<\/p>\n<div class=\"ckeditor-html5-audio\"><span class=\"audio-wrapper\"><label class=\"audio-label\">Csal\u00e1di konfliktusok, j\u00e1tszm\u00e1k megold\u00e1sa &#8211; interj\u00fa Varga Szilvi\u00e1val<\/label><\/p>\n<p><audio controls=\"controls\" data-entity-type=\"file\" data-entity-uuid=\"ae4a18da-df61-4439-8b6a-a45c526363f9\" src=\"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Varga%20Szilvia%20coach_0.mp3\">&nbsp;<\/audio><br \/>\n<\/span><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Van, amikor m\u00e1r el\u0151re ismerj\u00fck a forgat\u00f3k\u00f6nyvet, mert unos-untalan ugyanazokban a jelenetekben tal\u00e1ljuk magunkat \u00e9s p\u00e1runkat, ugyanazokkal a dial\u00f3gusokkal. A v\u00e9g\u00e9n arra sem eml\u00e9ksz\u00fcnk sokszor, mi volt a vita forr\u00e1sa, mert k\u00f6zben m\u00e1r teljesen m\u00e1sr\u00f3l sz\u00f3l az eg\u00e9sz. Hogyan lehet kil\u00e9pni a j\u00e1tszm\u00e1kb\u00f3l?<\/p>","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"cikk_cimkek":[25],"content_flags":[350],"content_icons":[353],"class_list":["post-6181","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-erdmost","cikk_cimkek-mindennapok","content_flags-erdekes","content_icons-audio"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6181","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6181"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6181\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6181"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6181"},{"taxonomy":"cikk_cimkek","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/cikk_cimkek?post=6181"},{"taxonomy":"content_flags","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/content_flags?post=6181"},{"taxonomy":"content_icons","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/content_icons?post=6181"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}