{"id":110777,"date":"2024-11-14T17:28:57","date_gmt":"2024-11-14T16:28:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/?p=110777"},"modified":"2024-11-15T08:38:21","modified_gmt":"2024-11-15T07:38:21","slug":"amikor-a-gyerek-hordja-a-nadragot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/en\/2024\/11\/14\/amikor-a-gyerek-hordja-a-nadragot\/","title":{"rendered":"Amikor a gyerek hordja a nadr\u00e1got"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tavaly \u0151sszel jelent meg Bib\u00f3k Bea pszichol\u00f3gus: \u201eEllopott gyermekkor \u2013 A parentifik\u00e1ci\u00f3 jelens\u00e9ge \u2013 \u00f6nfel\u00e1ldoz\u00e1s gyerekkorban, feln\u0151ttkorban \u00e9s a p\u00e1rkapcsolatokban&#8221; c\u00edm\u0171 k\u00f6nyve, amiben a szerz\u0151 egy olyan t\u00e9m\u00e1t feszeget, amivel m\u00e9g a mai, a pszich\u00e9 \u00e9s a l\u00e9lek \u00fcgyei ir\u00e1nt nyitottabb vil\u00e1gban is ritk\u00e1n tal\u00e1lkozunk. Ez pedig az \u00fagynevezett parentifik\u00e1ci\u00f3.<\/p>\n<p>\u00daj podcastunkban mag\u00e1t az \u00edr\u00f3t k\u00e9rdezt\u00fck, m\u00e9gis mire gondoljunk a kifejez\u00e9s hallat\u00e1n.<\/p>\n<p>\u201eA parentifik\u00e1ci\u00f3 az, amikor a csal\u00e1dban, mint rendszerben egy olyan jelens\u00e9g \u00fcti fel a fej\u00e9t, hogy a gyerekek nem a koruknak megfelel\u0151 felel\u0151ss\u00e9gv\u00e1llal\u00e1ssal \u00e9lnek. H\u00e9tk\u00f6znapi nyelven, a korukhoz k\u00e9pest megterhel\u0151 feladatokat kapnak \u00e9s v\u00e9geznek. A csal\u00e1dban nem az \u0151 ig\u00e9nyeik vannak a f\u00f3kuszban, \u00e9s sokszor ez nem csak egy-egy helyzetet, hanem egy tart\u00f3s folyamatot, szerepet jelent, amit persze a gyerekek nem vesznek \u00e9szre&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\u2013 fogalmazott, mondv\u00e1n a gyerekek m\u00e1r csak az\u00e9rt is megteszik, mert v\u00e1gyj\u00e1k a sz\u00fcl\u0151i figyelmet, szeretetet, \u00e9s dics\u00e9retet.<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-110876\" src=\"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"960\" height=\"960\" srcset=\"https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea.jpg 960w, https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea-12x12.jpg 12w, https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea-560x560.jpg 560w, https:\/\/erdmost.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/bibok_bea-800x800.jpg 800w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 960px) 100vw, 960px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Elmond\u00e1s szerint p\u00e9ld\u00e1ul olyan \u00e9lethelyzetekre \u00e9rdemes gondolni, mint amikor egy csal\u00e1dtag kiesik a munk\u00e1b\u00f3l betegs\u00e9g, terhess\u00e9g vagy \u00e9pp alkoholizmus miatt, \u00e9s ilyenkor a gyereknek is \u00e1t kell v\u00e1llalnia fizikai vagy lelki feladatokat, neki is be kell sz\u00e1llnia, hogy a rendszer m\u0171k\u00f6d\u0151k\u00e9pes maradjon. Azonban ez terhet okoz neki, mivel az \u0151 dolga igaz\u00e1b\u00f3l valami m\u00e1s lenne. Mondjuk a j\u00e1t\u00e9k.<\/p>\n<p>\u201eP\u00e9ld\u00e1ul az alkoholista apuka nem tudni, mikor j\u00f6n haza. Hazaj\u00f6n-e, r\u00e9szeg vagy nem r\u00e9szeg? Alszik, nem alszik? Veszekedni fog, h\u0151z\u00f6ngeni fog? Verekedni fog vagy nyugalom lesz? Nagyon sokszor hallom, hogy a gyereket k\u00fcldt\u00e9k el a kocsm\u00e1ba, hogy hozza haza az apuk\u00e1t&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>\u2013 tette hozz\u00e1 a szakember, aki szerint ezek a gyerekek belecs\u00f6ppenek egy olyan probl\u00e9m\u00e1ba, amit a sz\u00fcl\u0151 sem tud megoldani, nemhogy \u0151k.<\/p>\n<p>A teljes interj\u00fat itt lentebb tal\u00e1lja:<\/p>\n<div class=\"ast-oembed-container\" style=\"height: 100%;\"><iframe  width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LbIlAzMa7p0?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Vannak csal\u00e1dok, ahol a gyerek nem gyerekk\u00e9nt, hanem feln\u0151ttk\u00e9nt \u00e9li a mindennapokat. 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